In order to create and live your ideal life, you must first tap into your Authenticity.
Can I be transparent for a moment? This is literally something that I have struggled with for the majority of my life.
Quite honestly, I would have to say within the last 5 years is when the true Krissy Leigh has emerged and initially it was a struggle to maintain my authenticity when I was in certain circles. Why is that?
Before we dive too far into this, let’s define authenticity.
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, authenticity is defined as true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character.
I love this definition so much because I believe it speaks to genuinely being yourself.
Now, this definition makes an assumption that you are aware of your own personality, spirit, or character. The thing is I didn’t know this about myself and didn’t have a clue of where to start.
I remember searching on google for personality tests and researching articles/blogs and books on this very topic. The common denominator I found was spending time alone and thinking about your strengths/weaknesses, likes/dislikes, and why.
This was the start of my inner work and truly getting to know myself. As mentioned earlier, initially there were times that I struggled to maintain my authenticity while in certain circles. I now know that’s because I was still getting to know myself and being myself.
I realized that in order for me to be authentic with others, I needed to know myself first. Authenticity starts within and then it shines outward.
As a single mother, alone time is not something that I usually have a lot of so I had to get creative. I would stay up later or get up early so I could study myself. Let’s call it Krissyology….lol.
I became an expert at knowing myself and in turn, fell in love with ME.
I started experiencing the benefits of knowing myself and being authentic almost immediately. I soon could pinpoint conversations that didn’t serve me. I could easily identify groups of people that didn’t align with my character. I became more aware of the relationships that were serving me and they became even more fruitful. Peace and I mean real peace (freedom from disputes, discord, and disturbance) became a part of my everyday life. The list goes on and on.
If you are struggling with being authentic, my encouragement to you is to become an expert in knowing yourself. Know your own personality, your spirit, and your character. Plan some alone time and grab a pen and paper and think about the following questions: Why do you find humor in certain things? Why do certain images evoke certain emotions for you? What are your core values and why? What frustrates you and why? If you could solve one problem on earth, what would it be and why?
These are just some starter questions that I have come across during my own inner work and in the process, more questions came to mind that allowed me to delve deeper into the study of myself.
Remember this is an ongoing process as you live this life. As you evolve, so does your studying.
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